NASHVILLE, Tenn. -- Suicide kills more people in
the United States every year than homicide, hypertension or motor
vehicle crashes, yet it's seldom discussed in the Church.
But now, mental health is moving to the forefront following suicides that rocked two prominent evangelical families.
Pastor Rick Warren, who leads Saddleback Church in Southern California, lost his 27-year-old son Matthew in April.
Also, Dr. Frank Page, president of the Southern Baptist Convention Executive Committee, just released a new book Melissa: A Father's Lesson's from a Daughter's Suicide about his daughter's death.
The Day Melissa Died
Page was alone at home when he received the call that would change his life. It was the day after Thanksgiving 2009 and his oldest daughter, 32-year-old Melissa, had just ended her life. Although she had struggled for years, Page knew something had changed that week.
Page was alone at home when he received the call that would change his life. It was the day after Thanksgiving 2009 and his oldest daughter, 32-year-old Melissa, had just ended her life. Although she had struggled for years, Page knew something had changed that week.
During an interview with CBN News in his Nashville
home he explained, "Two days before she died I said, 'Melissa, no one
loves you like your Daddy and nobody knows you like your Daddy and I
know something's wrong, bad wrong baby. Please...' -- and she was
getting ready to go talk to her mental health professional -- 'You tell
him that your Daddy thinks you need to be hospitalized.'"
As the top leader for the Southern Baptists, Page sets the direction for the denomination's 15.9 million members. He's also served as a successful mega-church pastor.
As the top leader for the Southern Baptists, Page sets the direction for the denomination's 15.9 million members. He's also served as a successful mega-church pastor.
But Page calls parenting Melissa one of his most
daunting challenges. It's why he wrote the book -- to encourage others
on a similar journey and challenge the Church to reach out.
Page and his wife, Dayle, explained that although Melissa accepted Christ as a child, her life was not easy.
Page and his wife, Dayle, explained that although Melissa accepted Christ as a child, her life was not easy.
"We worried about her constantly, wanted to be able to help her," Dayle told CBN News.
Frank explained, "She struggled with addictive
issues, behavioral issues, rebellion issues. She struggled in many ways
relationally. She was gifted beyond words and struggled beyond words."
In her 20s, Melissa reached a period of stability. She married and seemed headed on a smoother path. But then a bout with cancer led to a prescription pill addiction and she spiraled downward once again. The Pages say she never mentioned suicide, leaving them in shock the day she died.
In her 20s, Melissa reached a period of stability. She married and seemed headed on a smoother path. But then a bout with cancer led to a prescription pill addiction and she spiraled downward once again. The Pages say she never mentioned suicide, leaving them in shock the day she died.
For the first year, they remember feeling numb.
"People say, 'She committed suicide in November,
what was it like that first Christmas?' I don't remember," Frank told
CBN News. "Now the second Christmas I well remember. Then the grief was
even worse for me."
After more than three years, the Pages describe
their grief like waves, continually rolling in but varying in frequency
and intensity.
Suicide and Salvation
Their great comfort now is in knowing that Melissa
is at peace in heaven. It's a biblical truth they say our culture has
undermined.
"You've got some people who say 'If you commit
suicide you're going to hell,'" Frank explained. It's a belief the Pages
want the Church to challenge.
"I think you have to get to the point where if you
belong to Christ you are His child and nothing can separate you," Dayle
said.
Frank added, "It's a family thing and family never
changes. Sometimes we act like we're not a part of the family, but the
truth is when you're born and you're born again-it's forever."
Raising Awareness
Moving forward, the Pages hope to build on the growing national awareness of mental health issues. It started with last December's Sandy Hook Elementary shootings in Newtown, Conn., and continued in April with the suicide of Pastor Warren's son.
Moving forward, the Pages hope to build on the growing national awareness of mental health issues. It started with last December's Sandy Hook Elementary shootings in Newtown, Conn., and continued in April with the suicide of Pastor Warren's son.
"I think the timing is fascinating," Frank said,
"that indeed all these things have happened in a very short period of
time and I think God is going to use all these bad things to bring forth
a movement among God's people."
At the Southern Baptist annual convention in Houston this week, the denomination will work to promote awareness of mental health issues. Page is hoping to begin to remove some of the stigma and encourage churches to more pro-actively minister to those who are suffering.
At the Southern Baptist annual convention in Houston this week, the denomination will work to promote awareness of mental health issues. Page is hoping to begin to remove some of the stigma and encourage churches to more pro-actively minister to those who are suffering.
"These are legitimate, serious issues that people
struggle with," he said. "And the church needs to be the place where we
say 'we understand.'"
Page says the local Church can help through support
groups, counseling or simply awareness of what the community has to
offer. It's an enormous challenge but with more than 36,000 people
taking their own lives each year it could meet an enormous need.
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